Originally from Florida, Virginia always felt pulled toward something. She just didn’t know what that something was. This desire led her to make a move to New Hampshire in her late twenties, a decision that would shape everything that followed. For the first time, she was fully on her own.
Instead of living by others’ expectations, she focused on a bigger question: what does Virginia want?
“It was one of the best things I did for myself,” she says. “And also the scariest.”
While living in New Hampshire, Virginia met her future husband in an unexpected way, on Instagram. Her marriage brought her here. Virginia had dreamed of living by mountains since childhood, North Idaho immediately felt like home. But with her dream location came new challenges. Marriage, step-parenting, and building a life with someone else pushed her to confront parts of herself she had not fully explored.
“My relationship became a mirror,” she says. “It showed me the things I was avoiding.”
With a new marriage she was learning to navigate, Virginia dove deeper into personal development. She explored inner child healing, listened to podcasts, and began working with life coaches. Through hiring a life coach, she not only processed her past, she gained clarity on how to move forward. Eventually, that experience inspired her to become a life coach herself. Today, she helps women navigate relationships, identity, and personal growth, guiding them back to themselves while building a path forward.
What Is Life Coaching, Really?
Life coaching can feel vague to many people, and Virginia acknowledges that it is a broad field.
“It’s kind of the Wild West,” she jokes.
At its core, coaching is about forward momentum. While therapy often focuses on understanding the past, coaching emphasizes building the future. It focuses on creating actionable plans and aligning your life with what you truly want. Virginia sees coaching as a complement to therapy, not a replacement.
“It’s like a next step,” she explains. “You’ve done some healing, and now you’re ready to build.”
You Don’t Need All the Answers
A common misconception about coaching is that you need to have a clear goal before you start. Virginia says that’s not true. In fact, some of the most powerful transformations begin with uncertainty.
“I don’t know what I want, but I know this isn’t it. That’s enough,” she says.
That space of not knowing can become an opportunity to create something entirely new. So how does someone know if coaching is right for them? Virginia points to one simple starting point: curiosity.
“It really begins with genuine curiosity,” she explains, “and being in a season of life where you are open to trying something new.”
Many coaches offer free consultations, giving people a chance to explore what they want and whether the fit feels right. And fit matters.
“It’s about finding someone you connect with,” she adds. “Someone you feel comfortable opening up to.”
Building “Talking Blondes”
After becoming a life coach, the idea of starting a podcast struck Virginia. But the vision didn’t become clear until she found her perfect partner in her now bestie, Caitlin. Though they were friends beforehand, interestingly, Caitlin was one of her first coaching clients. Their conversations were so engaging and natural that starting a podcast felt like the obvious next step. After about a year of planning, Talking Blondes launched.
The show blends mental health, personal growth, and everyday life with a tone that feels like two friends talking over coffee. Some episodes tackle heavier topics like narcissistic relationships, while others explore lighter themes like pop culture. Episodes are long-form, often one to two hours, designed for listeners who want to really sit with a conversation.
“It’s like being at a table with us,” Virginia says.
The podcast releases every other week, with each host taking turns leading discussions and bringing their own perspective. What started as a creative project is now becoming something bigger. Virginia and Caitlin are building a community, both through their listeners and by planning to feature guests, including women entrepreneurs and voices from their local networks. Even without heavy promotion, the podcast has gained steady traction, with hundreds of streams and a growing audience. But what matters most is not the numbers. It is the impact.
“When someone messages us and says an episode meant something to them,” Virginia says, “that’s everything.”
Virginia’s story is a reminder that growth takes time, and it does not happen by accident. Whether through coaching, self-reflection, or simply being open to change, the path forward often begins with a simple question:
What do I actually want, and am I ready to go after it?
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